RESOURCES FOR FAMILIES OF TRANSGENDER INDIVIDUALS
Maintained by Parents of Transgender Individuals (PTI) chapters of PFLAG of Northern Illinois
- Our Trans Loved Ones: Questions and Answers for Parents, Families, and Friends of People Who Are Transgender and Gender ExpansiveThere is a link to a PDF file at the bottom of the page. IF YOU ARE NEW TO THIS, START HERE
- Families in TRANSition: A resource guide for families of trans youth – Publication by the Pride & Prejudice/Central Toronto Youth Services (CTYS). This is a link to a PDF file. If your browser asks if you want to open the file, then click “Open” and then “Allow”.
- Be Yourself – This publication offers a supportive and understanding approach to today’s most common questions and concerns from youth regarding sexual orientation, gender identity, and gender expression. Provides a list of resources, including hotline numbers, other organizations, and more. There is a link to a PDF file at the bottom of the page.
- A Guide to Name and Gender Marker Changes by Equality Illinois
- A Guide on creating a “Safe” Folder by TransYouth Family Allies
- The Gender & Sex Development Program at Lurie Children’s Hospital of Chicago
- Trans and Gender Non-Conforming Health program at Howard Brown Health
- American Psychological Association: Transgender People, Gender Identity and Gender Expression – From this page you may download the pamphlet in PDF format in different languages: English, Spanish, Arabic, Traditional Chinese, Simplified Chinese, and Russian
- 2015 U.S. Transgender Survey Report – From this page you may download the full report or its summary in PDF format.
- Public Support for Transgender Rights: A Twenty-three Country Survey
Andrew R. Flores, Taylor N.T. Brown, Andrew S. Park
The Williams Institute, UCLA School of Law
This is a link to a PDF file. If your browser asks if you want to open the file, then click “Open” and then “Allow”.
- Illinois Safe Schools Alliance – the Alliance is to promote safety, support and healthy development for LGBTQ youth, in Illinois schools and communities, through advocacy, education, youth organizing and research.
- LGBTQ Chicagoland Services Directory
- Tips for Allies of Transgender People
- National Center for Transgender Equality
- Know your Rights – Transgender People and the Law
- Family Equality Council – works to ensure equality for LGBT families by building community, changing hearts and minds, and advancing social justice for all families.
- TransParent USA – a network of support groups, links to blogs and forums, books, videos, educational materials, and other resources
- FTM International – Female to male transgender site. Books, news, etc.
- National LGBTQ Task Force – advances full freedom, justice and equality for LGBTQ people.
- National Transgender Law Institute – Transgender legal affairs activist site. Weekly announcements of changes in state or federal law affecting trans people. Searchable database on college and employer transgender policies, hate crime laws.
- TransYouth Family Allies – coalition of parents, friends and caring adults dedicated to educating and raising public awareness about the medical and cultural challenges faced by children with gender variant and gender questioning identities and the families who love them.
- TransFamily – transgender support group in the Cleveland, Ohio area. The site maintains a list of
resources and operates several e-mail based mailing lists.
- Gender Spectrum – excellent West Coast web site for gender variant children and their families. Owned and operated by therapist Stephanie Brill.
- Matt Kailey’s Tranifesto – Transgender & Transsexual Issues, Information, Advice, & Opinion
- Trans*Resources in Boulder County, CO
- Trevor Support Center – information preventing suicide and Trevor’s unique resources for LGBTQ youth.
- The LGBT Health & Development Program at Northwerstern University – Resources for Transgender Youth and Parents
- Advocates for Youth – champions efforts that help young people make informed and responsible decisions about their reproductive and sexual health.
- Camp Aranu’tiq of Harbor Camps – a nonprofit program serving transgender & gender-variant youth & their families.
- Mermaids – UK site providing support for children and young people up to 20 years old who are gender diverse, and their families, and professionals involved in their care.
- Safe Schools Coalition – public-private partnership in Washington State, in support of LGBTQ youth, working to help schools become safe places where every family can belong, where every educator can teach, and where every child can learn, regardless of gender, gender identity or sexual orientation.
- The Consortium of Higher Education LGBT Resource Professionals – member-based organization working towards the liberation of LGBTQ people in higher education.
- Transgender Law and Policy Institute (TLPI) – a non-profit organization dedicated to engaging in effective advocacy for transgender people in our society. The TLPI brings experts and advocates together to work on law and policy initiatives designed to advance transgender equality.
- Campus Pride – represents the leading national nonprofit organization for student leaders and campus groups working
to create a safer college environment for LGBTQ students.
- Trans Youth Equality Foundation – provides education, advocacy and support for transgender and gender non-conforming children and youth and their families.
- Families Like Mine – site for children of LGBT parents
- Parents of Transgender Individuals (PTI) in the PFLAG Northern Illinois Council
- Center on Halsted – provides a vast array of programs and services designed to advance Chicago’s LGBTQ and allied community
- Lurie Children’s Hospital – playgroup for kids/support for parents (for patients of the program)
- Howard Brown Health Support Groups For Trans and Gender Non-conforming People:
TYRA (Transgender Youth Resource and Advocacy Group) – a support group for transgender and questioning youth, 24 and under, to meet people, get informed, and be supported by their peers.
T-Time Transgender & Intersex Support Group – an open group for transgender, gender variant, two-spirit, gender non-conforming, intersex, and gender questioning individuals.
- Broadway Youth Center (BYC) of Howard Brown Health – serves as a safe haven for LGBTQ youth.
- FUMCAH First United Methodist Church Arlington Heights
Pinwheels – LGBTQ-specific program, for trans-children and their families.
Rainbow Circle – a meeting place for LGBTQ+ persons and their allies.
- Youth Outlook – the first social service agency in Illinois dedicated solely to the support of LGBTQ+ youth
- IntraSpectrum – offers several psychotherapy and support groups
- Trans Forming Families by Mary Boenke
- He’s My Daughter: A Mother’s Journey to Acceptance by Eve Langley
- Transgender Emergence: Therapeutic Guidelines for Working with Gender-Variant People and Their Families by Arlene Istar Lev.
This comprehensive book provides you with a clinical and theoretical overview on the issues facing transgender/transsexual people and their families.
- Helping Your Transgender Teen: A Guide for Parents by Irwin Krieger
- TrueSelves: Understanding Transsexualism-For Families, Friends, Coworkers, and Helping Professionals by Mildred L. Brown, Chloe Ann Rounsley.
A serious book by a therapist with over 25 years of working with transgender individuals
- The Transgender Child: A Handbook for Families and Professionals by Stephanie A. Brill, Rachel Pepper.
The Transgender Child is the first of its kind – a thoughtful manual for parents and caregivers of transgender children, written by one of our country’s most respected gender therapists and an experienced researcher and author of books related to the GLBT community and gender variance. Detailed, up-to-date, and easy to read, this book should be the prime resource for parents of transgender children and teens, and anyone who deals with them. Highly recommended.
- Raising My Rainbow: Adventures in Raising a Fabulous, Gender Creative Son by Lori Duron.
The heart of this memoir is love. Ms. Duron is a strong, loving mother. She doesn’t just support her child C.J., but listens and respects his personal emotional needs. In this book we see and acknowledge the struggles of a mother fighting for her child’s right to be himself. She does so even as she herself is berated for not forcing her child to conform to the standards of gender presentation in our society to be someone he is not. The book covers the period from Ms. Duron’s early first awareness that C.J.’s interests differ from his typical older brother Chase’s through C.J.’s entry into first grade. It details Ms. Duron’s initial tolerance, then acceptance, of C.J.’s interests and creative gender expression. It shows the general societal resistance to a boy who likes “girl” things. The efforts Ms. Duron puts forth to support C.J. throughout this period reflect the love of this exceptional mother for her gender-creative child. This continuing story can also be followed on Ms. Duron’s blog -http://raisingmyrainbow.com. It would be especially valuable for any parent of a questioning or creative child.
- Trans-Kin: A Guide for Family and Friends of Transgender People by Eleanor A. Hubbard
(Editor), Cameron T. Whitley (Editor), Cat Moran
- Mom, I Need to be a Girl by Just Evelyn
A wonderful story of one family’s journey with their teenage child’s transition from male to female.
- Always My Child: Kevin Jennings, Executive Director of GLSEN and Pat Shapiro, MSW
A superb book on dealing with GLBTQ children, especially during the coming outprocess. Many of the principles apply to dealing with ALL children.
- Confessions of a Gender Defender: Randi Ettner, Ph.D.
Although published in 1996, this book is still relevant today. Newcomers to transgender are showing up daily – especially parents of young children – who need her perspective. “Confessions” is made up of a series of anecdotes, notes, and memories accumulated over nearly three decades as a therapist. It encompasses segments about transgender patients ranging from young children to octogenarians. Dr. Ettner includes stories both happy and sad, as seen through her eyes.
- My Daughter He – Transitioning With Our Transgender Children by Candace Waldron
- Gender Born, Gender Made – Raising Healthy Gender-Nonconforming Children by Diane Ehrensaft, PhD
- I Am Jazz by Jessica Herthel, Jazz Jennings, Shelagh McNicholas (Illustrator) – children’s book
- Be Who You Are by Jennifer Carr – children’s book
- The Gender Quest Workbook: A Guide for Teens and Young Adults Exploring Gender Identity by Rylan Jay Testa, Deborah Coolhart, Jayme Peta
- Parrotfish by Ellen Wittlinger
Parrotfish is a peek into the life of one high-school student as he struggles with the pressures of bullying, isolation and the unknown. Grady was born a girl. When he announced that he was actually a boy, his mother was devastated, his sister was horrified, and his father was…. well, at least his father was trying to be understanding. Grady’s best friend since childhood, Eve, refuses to even look at him in school. She becomes part of the gang of girls whose primary reason for living is to torture Grady. Grady feels totally alienated and alone.
- Luna by Julie Ann Peters
Here is a wonderful book for teens (targeted for 15 and older) written from the perspective of Regan, a female high school sophomore. Her brother Liam, a brilliant senior, can’t stand the person he is during the day. His true self, Luna, reveals herself only at night. For years, Liam has transformed himself into the beautiful girl he longs to be with help from his sister’s clothes and makeup in the secrecy of their basement bedrooms. Now everything is about to change. Luna is preparing to emerge from her cocoon.
- Almost Perfect by Brian Katcher
A well-done tale of high school romance with a new twist. Logan is a depressed high school senior in a western Missouri small town. His long-time girlfriend Brenda has recently dumped him. When a new girl at school –Sage – joins Logan and his buddy Tim’s “team” in biology class, Logan quickly is attracted to her. Similarly, Sage is attracted to him. As they get to know one another and spend time together, Logan’s typical male instincts lead him toward making out with Sage – but she resists. Logan is frustrated and angry, but still wants to be with Sage and Sage still wants to be friends with him. As Logan tries to understand why this beautiful girl is unwilling to make out, with even light petting, Sage finally tells him her secret – she is transgender. Logan freaks out – if this gets out, his buddies will think he is gay!!
- Whipping Girl: A Transsexual Woman on Sexism and the Scapegoating of Femininity by Julia Serano
- Gendered Situations, Gendered Selves: A Gender Lens on Social Psychology by Judith A. Howard
- Transgender Explained for Those Who Are Not by Joanne Herman
- Transgender 101: A Simple Guide to a Complex Issue by Nicholas M. Teich
- Transgender Warriors: Making History from Joan of Arc to Dennis Rodman by Leslie Feinberg
This book (published 1996), is often recommended to newcomers to the transgender phenomenon; the historical information is quite valuable. Feinberg starts with his own history, showing how he was led to investigate the history of transsexualism while working with the Workers World Party. His studies led to investigation of transgender throughout history. Avoiding the overall conflict about the definitions of various “levels” of transgender, Feinberg uses transgender in his book as an umbrella term for all persons who challenge the socially acceptable or cultural boundaries of sex and gender. All those who fall under this definition have experienced oppression, and representatives of all have fought back. These are the transgender warriors.
- Transgender Emergence: Therapeutic Guidelines for Working with Gender-Variant People and Their Families by Arlene Istar Lev
An outstanding book of historical and current guidelines for addressing the needs of all gender-variant people, including transgender children and youth.
- Becoming a Visible Man by Jamison Green
There are far fewer books about female-to-male (FtM) transition than there are about male-to-female (MtF). When a leading activist and advocate for FtM presents his autobiography, it instantly becomes an important work. When it is well written and insightful, it becomes a must-have book for anyone interested in transsexual experience and history. Green’s book exceeds these standards.
- FTM: Female-to-Male Transsexuals in Society by Holly Devor
- Trans Liberation: Beyond Pink or Blue by Leslie Feinberg
- Finding the Real Me: True Tales of Sex and Gender Diversity by Tracie O’Keefe
A compilation of stories by transgenders about their accepting,
transitioning, and coming out process.
- The Nearest Exit May Be Behind You by S. Bear Bergman
- Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation by Kate Bornstein, S. Bear Bergman
- Sex Changes: The Politics of Transgenderism by Patrick Califia-Rice
- She’s Not There: A Life in Two Genders by Jennifer Finney Boylan
- The Transgender Guidebook: Keys to a Successful Transition by Anne L. Boedecker
- Beyond Magenta, Transgender Teens Speak Out by Susan Kuklin
- Becoming Nicole: The Transformation of an American Family by Amy Ellis Nutt
- The Social Justice Advocate’s Handbook: A Guide to Gender by Sam Killermann
- The Transgender Teen: A Handbook for Parents and Professionals Supporting Transgender and Non-Binary Teens by Stephanie A. Brill
- Trans (2012) – A variety of trans people speak of their lives, including a Trans female surgeon who performs sexual reassignment surgeries.
- Becoming Chaz (2011) – Documentary following Chaz (formerly Chastity) Bono’s gender transition. Includes interviews with family members and friends as the transition is followed.
- Boy Meets Girl (2014) – A romantic comedy.
- Boys Don’t Cry (1999) – A movie based on the true story of Brandon who was murdered by his buddies when they discovered he was a female to male transgender man. CONTENT WARNING: violence, rape.
- The Brandon Teena Story (1998) – A documentary about Brandon Teena (the movie Boys Don’t Cry is based on the same true story).
- XXY (2007) – This is the dramatic story of a intersexed 15-year-old. She lives with her parents, who have to cope with the challenges of her medical condition.
- She’s a Boy I Knew (2007)– Using interviews, animation, old family footage, and voice mail, Vancouver filmmaker Gwen Haworth documents her male-to-female gender transition partially through the voices of her anxious but loving family, best friend, and wife.
- Soldier’s Girl (2003)– The true story of a young soldier beaten to death for falling in love with a transgender nightclub performer.
- Transamerica (2005) – A pre-operative male-to-female transsexual takes an unexpected journey when she learns that she fathered a son, now a teenage runaway hustling on the streets of New York. As they travel across country she hides who she is while they forge a relationship.
- Tomboy (2011) – A 10-year-old girl, settling into her new neighborhood outside Paris, is mistaken for a boy and has to live up to this new identity since it’s too late for the mistake to be clarified.
- Ma Vie en Rose (1997)– Ludovic is a young transgender girl who is coming out. She talks of marrying her neighbor’s son and can not understand why everyone is so surprised about it. Her family and neighbors struggle.
- Southern Comfort (2001) – Southern Comfort documents the final year in the life of Robert Eads, a female-to-male transsexual. Eads, diagnosed with ovarian cancer, was turned down for treatment by two dozen doctors out of fear that treating such a patient would hurt their reputations. By the time Eads received treatment, the
cancer was too advanced to save his life. Filmmaker Kate Davis follows Robert and a group of trans-gendered Southerners in this captivating and truly touching documentary.
- Beautiful Boxer (2004) – Based on the real life story of Parinya Charoenphol, a Muaythai boxer who underwent a sex change operation to become a woman. The movie chronicles her life from a young boy who likes to wear lipstick and wear flowers to her sensational career as kickboxer whose specialty is ancient Muaythai boxing moves which she can execute expertly with grace and finally her confrontation with her own sexuality which led to her sex change op.
- Normal (2003) -A Midwestern husband and father announces his plan to have a sex change operation.
- Middle Sexes: Redefining He and She (2005) – Examines the diversity of human sexual and gender variance around the globe, with commentary by scientific experts and first-hand accounts of people who do not conform to a simple male/female binary.
- Red Without Blue (2007) – The intimate bond between two identical twin brothers is challenged when one decides to transition from male to female; this is the story of their evolving relationship, and the resurrection of their family from a darker past.
- Screaming Queens: The Riot at Compton’s Cafeteria (2005) – The pre-Stonewall riot in the Tenderloin of San Francisco by trans women and male prostitutes.
- Gen Silent (2011) – About older LGBT people including a transwoman dying of lung cancer.
- No Dumb Questions (2001) – Three young sisters with their parents ponder how their Uncle is becoming their Aunt.
- Just Call Me Kade (2002) – Trans FTM teen’s family and friends give him lots of love and support.
- Transparent (2014-)
- TransGeneration (2005) – A look at the lives of four college students undergoing gender transition.
- Sex Change Hospital (2007-)
- Documentary by National Geographic Gender Revolution: A Journey with Katie Couric
- TED Talk How I help transgender teens become who they want to be by Dr. Norman Spack
- http://www.frameline.org/ Frameline organizes the annual San Francisco LGBT Film Festival and sells and rents DVDs. Click on the “Distribution” link, or “Distribution Catalog.”
– LGBTQ subject
- The Agony of Nurturing the Spirit – A Mother’s Recount of Raising a Transgender Child
- Welcoming Our Trans Family & FriendsThis is a link to a PDF file. If your browser asks if you want to open the file, then click “Open” and then “Allow”.
- Transgender Visibility – A Guide to Being You